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Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice.

Out of 17 case managers, only 2 have been male. Female cms: detailed, logical, responsive, solution oriented, clear effective communication. Male cms, the opposite.

I try to communicate clearly, effectively, which is easy cuz autism, and the 2 male cms, i get constant 2nd guessing, passive-aggressive defensiveness. Get impression they're automatically assuming I don't think clearly, don't know what I'm saying. It's weird, and I can't figure out why.

I know not all men are the same. I'm not like all women. Have I just been unlucky with these 2 cms, or is there a gender aspect to this I'm not understanding? I'd like to learn.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Most of the female-centric Lemmy communities are now abandoned. I'm sure the hostility did not help that. Don't blame them. I'd never suggest Lemmy as a space for women.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

Damn, that's fucking awful. What female-centric communities existed? I know what ones my wife follows on Reddit but not their analogues here

Edit: Nevermind. The Reddit communities i found with analogues here are dead AF. Even the big pooular stereotypical topics like Fashion, cooking, weight loss, wedding planning, cozy games, skincare, hair styles, TV shows, romance books, dating, are all dead here.

Goddam, Lemmy users literally scared all the women away.

A real life example of "Stop scaring the hoes"

I am increasingly unable to take this place seriously.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

TwoXChromosome is also dead. Witchy-type instances are abandoned, too. It's so sad, because I've had the most lively and supportive conversations in those places.

There is a grave problem with the Lemmy ecosystem system if women do not feel safe / comfortable using it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

"Stop scaring the hoes"

Come on man, do you think referring to woman as hoes is gonna help 😂

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

"Scaring the hoes" is a catch all term for when the things men enjoy in private or with other men create environments that are inhospitable to women.

I've always heard it in a comedic context, said with nearly the same tone as when Eustace berates Courage the Cowardly Dog.