I have been judged for being into CNC, DDLG and even for enjoying being choked 😭

Sadly this judgement is mostly from fellow women who assume a woman couldn't possibly be into these things by herself and that it has to mean a man forced me to pretend I am into them. I think this is a stupid take that takes away from the autonomy of women.

Also someone legit kink shamed me about DDLG saying that people who are into that are either p*dophiles or enabling p*dophilia. And that with the knowledge/specification that all parties involved are consenting adults, and they even continued insisting on this judgment after I also specified that there are no other inappropriate power dynamics/imbalances at play. That really pissed me off.

Handholding.

Sissy stuff. Taking dildos/prostate toys in my butt, sucking off dildos, wearing panties and ultra fem dresses, humiliation (I like the fantasy of a dominatrix "exposing" me to her friends and all of them joining together to verbally and physically humiliate/degrade me), etc. I'm also into puppy play which a lot of people seem to confuse with being a furry but they're not the same (they probably do overlap a lot though).

I'm not necessarily a tough guy in the outside world but am generally considered to be fairly manly in my day job and my life in general. Basically not like a construction worker or anything but more like a head general contractor or project manager on a construction site. This type of fantasy play I guess is a bit of an escape from my daily reality.

I'm a fan of all things pee. Omorashi is what got me into it, but now I love when a big cock pisses all over me.

CNC (sub) and smooth armpits. I'm gay, so most of the armpit folks are in it for the hairy one. I love em smooth.

Butt stuff, those harness style underwear and harnesses in general, chokers. (Nothing too bdsm-y, just the style is sexy) That heavy egirl makeup with the winged eyeliner. Filming and taking private pictures.suoer sloppy blowjobs. Fishnets. thigh high socks with the stripes.

We rarely do anything but my wife likes lace underwear as her limit, and hand stuff. Sometimes PiV.

She gives me a lot of shit and judges me for asking for these things, but on the grand scheme of things I feel like I'm not that crazy.

I want to get used by a large dicked trans, males just don't do it for me, but I want to know what it's like to taken by a domineering woman. This is a new thing for me, since Quitting Hard drugs in the 2000s I haven't had any sexual urges until I started taking prescribed meds (not sure which one is causing this) but now I'm a massive sub and I have no idea where that comes from. My wife has told me multiple times through the years that she will never top or go near anal plus she's also super submissive.

Femdom, particularly anything with boxing, wrestling, combat. The "struggle" is very very hot to me.

Femdom feels like a thing that is either very very ordinary or very strange depending on your investigation of kink, bdsm, and gender roles

Anal

Fake cum. I know most people don't like it, and it's not the fake cum itself that I like, but mostly it's the sticky "shlick shlick" sounds I love when it's being played with.

Normal porn is usually cumshot, zoom in, smile, roll credits. Meh.

Being super cuddly/handsy. I'm super affectionate, and I've had a couple of partners call me a perv because of it, which causes me to shut down 😅

Financial Domination

Men.

Smoking. Still legal at least, but very judged

Buttholes, but absolutely no scat or farting. I absolutely love smelling and licking a butthole that is clean, preferably at the end of the day with all the natural pheromones. And anal sex of course, nothing better than a girl who takes it in the ass.

Cuckolding and ballbusting (and just being a submissive man in general). At best they are met with confusion, more typically disgust.