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[–] 109 points 2 years ago* (64 children)

Why are we infantilizing adults? Interpersonal relationships are complex and nuanced; we can acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships without insulting the autonomy and choices of those involved. These neo-puritanical bullshit tendencies creeping in on the left needs to stop; it's a trojan horse for the next generation of conservatives. Reject non-nuanced conservative-bate thinking.

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    [–] 72 points 2 years ago (13 children)

    What on earth is going on with that picture? Apparently the main source is this picture here.

    Who processed it and why?

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  • [–] 20 points 2 years ago

    I don't know what the impetus is, but some people seem compelled to put face filters on pretty much everything. I saw a post a while back with a historical photo that had been processed for some reason. It's absurd.

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    [–] 57 points 2 years ago (12 children)

    Happily married but from what I’ve encountered in the wild, I wouldn’t/couldn’t do anything under 28 or so. It’s a completely different worldview.

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  • [–] 31 points 2 years ago (7 children)

    Not that worldview matters that much when having sex

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  • [–] 36 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    Yeah, but that only lasts 90 seconds. What do you do for the rest of the day?

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    [–] 55 points 2 years ago (31 children)

    Half your age plus seven.

    Shit’s not hard, guys.

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  • [–] 54 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    I don’t judge the age difference as long as they’re both adults. What two consenting adults do is up to them, it’s none of my business.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 years ago* (4 children)

    depends what your looking for

    i like 1999 Dodge Durango type women

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    [–] 38 points 2 years ago (10 children)

    Nah on tinder it's 18 to 118 for me. Keep it legal, don't hurt anybody, have fun.

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago (18 children)

    How do people deal with getting older when the hottest girls are out of your age range.

    I was hoping as I get older women I'm most attracted to would get older. Seems my standards are just lowering but a 20 year is still banging.

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  • [–] 38 points 2 years ago

    Disclaimer: I'm old and retired. My wife is 7 years younger than me and we've been married 37 years.

    You will always stop and look at and admire a pretty young lady. You might even think to yourself, "If I was 40 years younger!" And then immediately think to yourself "But any way".

    As you get older you will become more attracted to older women. Not because you think they are prettier than younger women, that's biology for you. But, you will find the personality and cultural reference points of age far more compelling than plain beauty in your relationships. Turns out, shared life experiences and culture means more in the long run than the smell of bubble gum and all the drama of youth.

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  • [–] 22 points 2 years ago

    Eh. I want to fuck a 20 year old. I want to have a relationship with a 40 year old. I've been in two different casual relationships with women younger than me (33/23, and 35/26) and they were exhausting. Not having any common cultural touchstones was a much bigger bummer than I thought it would be. So I wanted to spend an hour or two with them, but I find myself perfectly content spending an entire day with my current (39/35) fiance.

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  • [–] 21 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    You're still gonna be attracted to 20yos physically. There's over 100k years of evolution that wants you to mate with the fittest, most attractive mate that you can. But is that a person you actually want to spend time with outside of the bedroom? So, yeah, your standards in regards to physical attractiveness are gonna drop as you age, but your other standards will likely change too.

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  • [–] 9 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    when the hottest girls are out of your age range.

    I'm 46. I'm married, but if I was single, I find women near my age more attractive than much younger women. The sophistication and poise that can come with age is more attractive to me. I'm not saying I would kick either of the above women out of my bed, but I'd much rather be with someone in their 40s.

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    [–] 19 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    In my experience, it doesn't matter what you set your age or distance range to in Tinder, because you're going to get people 10 years older or younger and a hundred miles farther away than you specify anyway.

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    [–] 17 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Divorced? Who the hell can even afford to get married anymore...

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    [–] 14 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    As an actual 40 YO divorced dust that used apps for a bit, I felt weird doing 10 +/-, but I can't imagine there are THAT many guys with such a wide range.

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  • [–] 10 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    As a 40 year old dude I don't think I'd be setting my age range to that upper bound if I were to be divorced. More like 35 and that's with large caveats.

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    [–] 10 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    You mean 18-99? Haven't used tinder in ~7 years or so, but I believe there was an upper limit. Found out by trial and error that apparently some women enter their year of birth instead of their age, when I matched with someone who was allegedly 97 years old.

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    [–] 9 points 2 years ago

    I thought this was the default setting until the user goes in to edit preferences. It was doing that to me until I went in to stop it from flinging my profile at literally everyone.

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