You should tell her that you've been trying to reach her regarding her car's extended warranty.
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Shoot webbing at the closest streetlight, use it to swing to the to of the building across the street. The Rhino is trying to rob the bank again, stand back citizen!
Make yourself more visible. Be on your phone with brightness set to max, get on the phone and call someone, or pretend to. Move over slowly to the edge of whatever side you are on to give her space. If all of that is too much trouble, then cross the street.
What kind of question is this? You just act like a normal person and keep walking. Maybe step politely to the side to avoid crashing right into them
Just go where you need to be. Mind your own business, eye ahead so you see where you're going, and only stop if she trips or drops something. And that's not an invitation to start chatting - be helpful and go on.
Cross the street because what if she tries talking to me? It's night, I already did all my talking for the week I wanna be introverted alone.
Think fast hot shot! You both started crossing the street at the same time for the same reason and neither of you noticed until you're in the middle of the road. Now what?
If it’s a brightly lit street, or with any other people about, I just mind my own business and walk past her. I usually hug the wall side so she won’t feel boxed in as we pass.
If it’s dimly lit, or at all sketchy, and there’s no one else around I’ll usually cross to the other side of the road. I’d rather walk a little extra distance than have someone be afraid.
The safety dance. Oo the safety dance. Yes the safety dance. The safety dance.
Grandma used to say nothing breaks the ice like breaking wind so give a friendly toot as you pass.
As a woman, seriously, just give me the bro nod to acknowledge that I exist but am not that interesting to you and keep walking. If you go out of your way to show that you aren't a threat now I'm thinking you're a threat, and if you pointedly ignore me now I'm wondering if you are actually far more interested in me than you should be but you want me not to notice.
Brief eye contact while acknowledging that I exist tells me you aren't afraid of me remembering your face but that you aren't being weird and staring or trying to hide from me.
Just don't be weird man, that's all you gotta do.
"Just don't be weird" is exactly the kind of thought that'd cause me to come off as weird. Suddenly every detail of what I do is manual and scrutinized by myself.
I honestly don’t like answering these because I haven’t been put off by many people in public and the ones who do don’t need an instruction manual on how to be disarming.
If I understand the TikTok trend from a little while back, the solution is to pretend to be a bear.
Slowly lower yourself to all fours and start huffing to yourself hangry-ly
According to Brent Staples' essay from a few decades ago, about how to not be seen as threatening as a black man in the US: "And on late-evening constitutionals I employ what has proved to be an excellent tension-reducing measure: I whistle melodies from Beethoven and Vivaldi and the more popular classical composers. Even steely New Yorkers hunching toward nighttime destinations seem to relax, and occasionally they even join in the tune. Virtually everybody seems to sense that a mugger wouldn’t be warbling bright, sunny selections from Vivaldi's Four Seasons. It is my equivalent of the cowbell that hikers wear when they know they are in bear country."
If someone's out here in the dark with me being cultured, I am terrified.
That's eat my liver with fava beans and a nice Chianti energy.
I'm ngl, hearing a lone man whistling Vivaldi's "Spring" in the middle of the night while alone would be kinda terrifying.
A thing that should be emphasized, is that humans learn how to behave in different situations by practice. If a given passing-a-woman instance suggests that you made her nervous, while regrettable, isn't the end of the world. Try different things. With practice, you can find what works for you, and will gradually get better at "acting normal" or presenting in the manner that seems to produce the desired result.
Nothing will help this scenario with just 2 people.
You have to add a third party. The man needs to have a female companion, or a happy friendly dog.
If I walk alone, my 250 pound, six foot talk frame is viewed as a threat. If I take my brother's highly animated German spotted pointer with me, people approach me and want to pet the puppy.
One of the things I hate about the way I look is people are scared of me. Feels like just to exist somewhere, I either accept I'll be treated as a "thug", or I need to actively project an aura of civility. It's exhausting either way.
Totally different social experience if I have any feminine-looking person with me; people are suddenly nice and welcoming. Like I've been "vetted" as normal.
Ah, so that's how you get them into the van.
Sing a The Cardigans song, like Pikebubbles.
What with the growing population world-wide it is not unusual to meet a human when you're out walking. Remember it's probably just as scared as you are. Try to keep your cool. Don't try to feed them, don't stare at them, don't photograph them. Don't run, or they might think you're prey. It's often best to just keep going and pretend you don't see them.
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