Time brings acceptance, because you can only be freaked out by something for so long

Existential things are my interest. I dwell in the crisis till my ego dissolves.

You don't overcome it. You just ride it out.

Went to my university library and checked out a ton of books about death. It was helpful to get a lot of takes on it, including multiple philosophical and religious deep dives. I no longer feared death afterward for some time. It gave me the courage to ditch my shitty job and start a new life 1500 miles away on a shoestring budget. Sometimes you've just gotta shake things up to feel alive again. Even if it means living like a hobo for a while.

Not a solution but: physical touch, affection and quality time with loved ones is a very nice and effective way to feel a bit better (even if just for a brief moment), and to ground yourself back into the "here and now". I guess you could say it is a kind of "coping mechanism" or something like that for those times when you feel like you're spiralling into a maelstrom of existential dread.

I read your last post and it hit pretty close to home for me. In 2024, my partner had two strokes. Since then, a few friends and family members have passed away unexpectedly.

To top it all off, a family friend just found out she had brain cancer. The dr said she had 6 weeks to live, unless she did chemo every day for at least 30 days, which would give her another 12-14 months.

I’m leaving my stable job of 22 years (which has slowly been sucking the soul out of me) on Friday and I can’t wait to start a new chapter in my life.

It’s sounds cliche, but life is short. If you’re unhappy you need to make change.

E: words are hard

You don't snap out of out. You either try your best to avoid thinking about it or you sit with it and all the emotions that come with it.

it looks like you woke up and that's not necessarily a bad thing.

it just hurts because the world is shit.

The fact that our lives will come to an end makes every moment we have more precious. These are unique experiences that cannot be replicated.

Easy to say, and I do believe it, but also...

Boomers like my parents chose and still choose to perpetuate abusive systems instead of opposing them. I spent too long thanking them for teaching me violence because any other reaction would be met with violence. Why am I supposed to feel grateful about being born into a backwards, burning slave world?

I am finally getting treatment for alcohol dependency. I want to stop hiding from my own life, but I don't know how. I wasted myself on people who don't actually care about anything but themselves. It sometimes feels like there is too much pain for anything to be worthwhile, but I am also too scared to check out early.

So... I don't know. We have a lot of problems to solve. Things may get worse before they get better, but there is potential for things to get better. Theoretically. 🤷 I hope they get better for everyone, including you. I wish I knew.

Read/listen to/watch philosophy content. People wiser than us over the centuries have spent their lifetimes thinking about these questions. There's no single answer, but there are ways of thinking through this and coming to a place mentally that you can be happy with.

Personally I find Albert Camus's flavour of absurdism to be the best way I find things to make sense. The universe is irrational and meaningless, and that's great news. We carry on in a meaningless world and make our own meaning.

If you like podcasts then here are some great ones:

Happiness Lab

Hidden Brain

Overthink

Within Reason (although he's spending too much time in his analysis of religion, I prefer the other episodes)

Even just watching TV shows and movies helps, as long as you're paying attention to the story of the charachters, the messages and the experiences/motives of the characters. Seeing the stories of others (even if fictional) helps put your own situation in perspective.

By realizing it's just existence, not a crisis.

Meditation, occasionally psychadelic mushrooms, spending time with loved-ones, and lots of reading.

Learning that life consists of times like these, and how to sit with those feeling.

It’s all about presence, gratitude, and community. That’s what helped me.

If you want a compassionate grounding in living life without society-provided anchors, I can't think of nobody better to guide you that Britt Hartley of the No Nonsense Spirituality Channel on YouTube. Though she's primarily about religious deconstruction, she's aware that humans survive by creating ANCHORS. "This thing is true and I can build my life around it." Religion is one of our biggest anchors, but it can be anything--love of a child (who might have died), belief that work is the most important part of your life (but it might make you miserable), etc.

From your other post, it might be that one of your anchors, work, is actually making you quite unhappy but you're having trouble letting go of it? This is the sort of thing that therapy would be great for theoretically, but either you find the right one or become your own therapist. "It is easier to become a good therapist than to find one.""-- Daniel Mackler

I haven't. Looking into therapy

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