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[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 year ago (3 children)

The knowledge that I have to go to work for the rest of my life. Other people get to live remarkable lives, and I don’t. This is it. Forever.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

On the flip side, you earn as long as you work. Assuming you earn a decent amount, you can invest it into your hobbies

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Unless you find a job that is exciting?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

Not impossible, but I’ve failed thus far. Most people do. There aren’t a lot of exciting jobs in the world and a lot of people who want them.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Meh. Ikigai. Lagom.

I have a job that, when I work it, gives me validation and food-money. I can do this forever. I don't need more than the basic needs and a bit for special stuff. That's enough.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Looking at the world getting worse every single day and realising that so few people care that we're essentially doomed unless some miracle happens.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

True, but revolutions usually take place by the few. I think that we just stopped discussing things with each other and just let things be. There will be no divine intervention I think.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

No, you are thinking of coups. A true revolution would never succeed without broad public support.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago

Climate change, and the associated realization that if I ever have children they will live in a world even more inhospitable than I grew up with.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Currently I would say the fear of unemployment. Getting a good paying job is difficult day by day.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In Germany it's starting to get hard to find employees. Our demographic is fucked.

The company I work for offers 35h per week / 30 days of vacation plus 6 additional days that you can either take or transform into money / work from home (if you wish) / paid overtime / paid travel time / good travel compensation / a very, very strong union (IG Metall) / subsidized meals / very good pay (for German standards) etc.

Yet we have a hard time finding people. It's a bummer but I believe the young people don't really have anything to work for. Nice housing is scarce and way too expensive, excessive consumption just fuels the climate catastrophe so no point in amassing shit no one really needs. They just want to have some time to themselves and don't give a shit about leading a comfortable life. And I fully understand them. If it weren't for my daughter I'd have sold the house and all meaningless shit and lead a healthy life instead of working for some dipshit just to make said dipshit richer.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I see. I think that this is happening almost everywhere. Neo-liberalism's tactics are hitting hard societies that are implementing it. But yet again, sell everything and lead a healthy life, where and how...?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't necessarily mean to live like a nomad or something similar. I mean to cut working hours in half for example and just come to terms with living in a shitty apartment. With more spare time on your hands, you can be outside more, do more sports, pick up hobbies (not all hobbies need to be expensive). Just live a more modest life but put the focus on yourself instead of work. Most people with well paying jobs grow accustomed to the luxury they can afford, which makes it difficult to go back to the level of comfort one used to have when they were students for example. I was happy as a student, I was also dirt poor. But happy!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

Existence is stressful.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Realizing, that my condition health-wise is probably not going to improve miraculously and is partially unbearable right now.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Knowing I can't ever afford my own house or afford to retire, but also that at some point I won't be able to find work any more.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Existing.

everything about it is stressful.

and the worst part, is there isnt even a valid reason for any of it to exist.

It exists because greedy people want to exploit people who don't have enough money, so they can have ever larger, utterly draconic hordes of gold.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Air travel. I do it, I've been doing it all my life, but it's basically a series of opportunities for something to get screwed up and waste your whole day, lose and/or destroy your stuff, end up stuck overnight in a smelly terminal with no food or bed, and maybe get puked on by someone's baby or your junk grabbed by a dude in a fake police uniform.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hey now, getting my junk grabbed is a perk buddy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Especially by a dude in a fake police uniform.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Alot of the serious things that people here already mentioned, unable to see a bright future for humanity. Cant afford a house of your own, etc.

But another thing that affects me day to day is Seeing stray cats and dogs on the side of the road. They just make me sad and then i have the urge to help them. And then realizing that i cannot help them all.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

My current health problems, global warming, my job and late stage capitalism

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Having to deal with frustrated and angry users unloading on me because I cannot fix their issues right away is probably my biggest thing that makes me stressed out. I work in Windows Desktop Support, need I say anymore?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

The pain is real!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

For sure! There's a reason why I on all of my personal computing devices and servers that I refuse to have anything Microsoft related. All I run at home is Linux and BSD.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

For sure. It's a breath of fresh air. It just does big things like actually work.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Definitely not the one thing, but: Pets.

I saw a cat yesterday, just chilling on an empty road out in the fields. I switched to the other side of the road, because I didn't want to scare it off, but as I passed it, it fucking meowed at me, like "Pet me?".

Which, you know, seems like a reasonable request. And I would have liked to. But I don't even know how to do the baby/pet voice, let alone how to break out of the whole manly man spiel.

Well, and then there's dogs, which are much worse than that. Most either interpret me not interacting with them as me fearing them, so they become aggressive, or they're the cuddly/curious type, immediately walking up to me for pets.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Apologies but I find this cute. I even giggled a bit. πŸ™‚

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

To Do lists with more than 3 items.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

The fear of being left alone by everyone, because i don't always adapt to peoples expectations now, like i kinda did my whole life. I know at the end of the day the people who realy matter will stay, but it hurts feeling like someone who once was your friend may be talking trash about you behind your back, because of misunderstanding and things that changed.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Devices that emit LOUD whistling/windy noise, such as a vacuum cleaner or one of those overpowered hand dryers.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Knowing I am going to see my in-laws.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Other people's problems. I myself don't really have many problems that affect me personally that I have to deal with. I'm a fairly boring-ass person that takes care of shit as it arises, BUT there's other people in my sphere of existence that all seem to have bigger problems (mostly self-inflicted). And their lives just keep getting worse as time goes on. I know I'm not responsible for their problems, but they're close enough to my life that I feel the need to help when I can (usually in the form of $$$). If I were in the reverse situation though, if I suddenly had some big financial issue strike me (knock on wood), I'm pretty sure I coudn't count on any of those people to help me out, I'd be completely SOL. Part of me wishes I could just disappear and go live somewhere as a stranger and lose contact with everybody.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

i think that you might wanna find out the reason behind the need of offering to help them. And when you find out, then everything will be just fine.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

My brother. Even my dog hates him. He's moody and entitled af

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Driving in traffic while my air conditioner isn't working in the summer heat