This is very relatable to me. I put on a lot of weight since the pandemic and its been so fun to flirt left and right and not be taken seriously, but every once in a while, someone likes big girls and bites. Panic.

I ‘flirt’ because dudes assume thats what I'm doing when I'm just having a conversation, and panic when they treat it like flirting. Because it isn't, ever, I’m ace/aro, keep your dick in your pants; I just like human connection.

But I’m also a chick magnet and I can’t explain that away with basic human decency..? I guess I give off vibes? I mean ladies are 1,000,000 more appealing than men, but I still don't want to sex them (tried both, meh)

https://lemmy.world/c/shirtsthatgohard

Good thing I don't know how to flirt. So there is no reason to panic

The one time it worked I panicked so hard I'm now married. No flirting for me anymore… (it's probably better that way)

Flirt? So like talk for hours about Warhammer 40k, Star Trek, Battletech and historical Naval battles?

I'm too stupid, aromantic, and autistic to recognize flirting resulting in the semi frequent situations where other people think I'm flirting but no I'm entirely serious about what I'm talking about with no ulterior motives.

There was at least one situation where I was info bitching about the lack of Bronze Age fantasy to some girl where she interrupted me to inform me she had no interest in sleeping with me, I informed her that I didn't care and just wanted to talk about the Bronze age and Neolithic since my friends banned me from that subject for a month. Turns out she was in the field of Neolithic studies focused primarily on late neolithic Scandinavia and the possible merger of paleo Europeans and Indo-Europeans in the region, we had a 2 hour discussion on the Neolithic plague hypothesis.

Eats shoots and leaves