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[–] 131 points 6 months ago

Anon isn't emotionally intelligent

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  • [–] 88 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Anon is so angry by their own logic they are not intelligent.

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  • [–] 85 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Anon was called “emotionally unintelligent” by someone they had feelings for.

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  • [–] 68 points 6 months ago (5 children)

    This is bait but emotional intelligence is understanding your emotions, not the emotions having intelligence

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    The contemporary use is from management theory.

    It was a metric made up to measure management candidates. From there it got into the self-help industry, and now that's why everyone posts it on their dating profiles, because are looking for someone to manage their emotions for them.

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  • [–] 46 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    "You can't be emotional and intelligent at the same time" is a misogynistic dogwhistle, anon thinks women are less intelligent than men, and I suspect the whole rant is informed by anons misogyny

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 child)

    Jk Rowling doesn't have the benefit of the doubt for that to work. Her works are dripping with status quo reinforcing shit and neither herself nor her characters are capable of growing past what they were born as.

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago

    It's not bigoted to recognize the type of language and stereotypes that are used against marginalized people. If you're a woman, you've almost certainly been called "too emotional" or "on her period" before as a means to dismiss you by people like this who think that emotions and rationality are incompatible with each other.

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  • [–] 40 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    "Intelligence" isn't about knowing a lot of stuff or even having experience. It's about being able to use your knowledge and experience to solve problems. So, by that logic, emotional intelligence means a skill of solving problems pertaining to emotions.

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  • [–] 10 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I'd say emotional intelligence is understanding why you feel a certain way and not allowing the automatic reaction to those feelings to be the default reaction.

    Like if something makes you angry, instead of going crazy, you take a deep breath and address it calmly. It's primarily emotional regulation.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    I've also heard the term applied to understanding why other people feel a certain way and taking steps to mitigate negative emotional feedback. It's not just being able to control your own emotions.

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  • [–] 19 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

    Demonstrates their point by raging-out unintelligibly. Never mentions gender. Commenters say its about hating women. Sure.

    Emotional Intelligence at a singular level amounts to taking the appropriate time to compose oneself, but at the same time, just because one shows emotion doesn't mean they don't have a point.

    I agree OP was likely rejected by someone, but I've seen gay men and lesbians use these phrases to try to manipulate their SO or counteract their SO's bullshit, more often the "calm" one overtly attempting manipulation and gaslighting. People have this delusion/conceit, that so long as they haven't been forced to say what they really think or feel, they are in-control, when in reality they are no more in-control of themselves than anyone-else.

    Bringing gender or "misogyny" into it is laughably besides-the-point to me. I saw a meme page try to say the 90%-of-prisoners-are-men statistic means its men who are overly-emotional, like the people who say women are too emotional have a point re:emotions, and only got the "women" part wrong. My fellow bitches, the "calm" ones are not on your side.

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    Man, don't tell them about other forms of intelligence, they'd stroke out

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  • [–] 16 points 6 months ago

    reflection is OFF THE FUCKING TABLE DIDN'T I SAY SO ALREADY I'M ENRAGED AT THE MERE THOUGHT OF THIS WHY WOULD ANYONE HURT THEMSELVES LIKE THIS BY LOOKING INSIDE I'M ANGRY HELP NO DON'T HELP AAAH. /s

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  • [–] 14 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Feels a bit like a self report.

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  • [–] 14 points 6 months ago

    Looks like anon only has the emotional part

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    Fake: OP

    Gay: Everyone in this thread taking this shit so seriously and getting mad about it.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Take a deep breath and touch grass.

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago* (1 child)

    If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.

    This community is for jokes and laughs, stop taking it so seriously. Mayhap you should consume more fiber and less Takis so you may dislodge whatever is damming up your large colon and let the poo flow.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    Ahahaha what makes you think that I'm taking you or anything seriously here? Is it because I said touch grass? Do you know what trolling is?

    You need to relax and remove that buttplug. It seems it's cutting blood flow to your brain.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago

    Anon is an emotional moron.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    Looks like anon ist emotionally intelligent.

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