What realization? Listen the first few months you’re gonna be sore and recovering, none of the magical “it’s over” stuff is gonna click until you realize you’re just living your life now and this is what normal is for you
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The realization that I actually got surgery. Most of my life the idea this would happen was just a dream. It was financially out of reach and I really didn't know how to abtained the letters I needed. It was not until the beginning of this year that everything just came together and I was able to figure everything out.
Ok yeah that one hit me around the 1-3 weeks in.
No question, but a suggestion: let people know who your sugeon was, and how they treated and continue to treat you. Come back regularly, talk about any complications you may be experiencing, and how your surgeon is supporting that.
Theres a lot of surgeons around the world now, but information about haw good they are is still really lacking.
You are right I should ha e given more information. I went ahead and update the main text but so you have it. Surgery: Penile Inversion Vaginoplasty, Surgeon: Dr. Gerhard Mundinger. I had one virtual appointment in February of this year and in that appointment they helped me find therapist that I cab get with for letters, and place near me to get hair removal. After I got the letters with in about a month (I have been transitioning for years so I had more then enough medial history and information needed that it didn't take them long to sign the letters). I then spend the next 5 months getting hair removal. Partly though this process my surgery date was set. I then had a physical appointment with my surgeon a week before the surgery. Then I just showed up at the hospital 3 hours before the surgery and from there I just let them do what they needed and slept a lot until I was released 48 hours later. Then I spent a week pretty mush in bed. I have 3 post op appointments with my surgeon. The first one was last week and that's when I started the process of dilation. Which to be fair has been the most awkward and frustrating part so far. I have my fiancé helping me and honestly without them this whole last week and half would have been near impossible. So above all you need a care taker you can depend on and will be willing to do basically everything for you.
I'm so proud of you!
Why thank you.
I'm assuming based on your username that you're a transgender woman, so on that assumption, I'm curious what type of surgery you opted for? I ask because I'm still debating what I should get when I get my surgery done.
I'm going back and forth on whether I care enough about having depth or not. If everything was equal and there was no increased recovery time and dilating, I would definitely go for depth just because it gives me the most realistic experience and options... but it seems terribly inconvenient for something that I doubt I'll ever make any use of since I'm a lesbian and have very little interest in penetrative sex.
Anyway, just curious to hear your thoughts, and congrats on the surgery!
I got Penile Inversion Vaginoplasty. I got amazing depth with mine. (This is not always the case and if I don't keep up on dilation then I will lose it). I'm getting married to a man and in my case I have more depth then needed but plan on making sure I don't lose any