If you have a favorite community you might take a look at the instance they’re hosted out of.

Beyond that, my general advice is to sort Lemmy instances by number of active users, then pick one that’s somewhere between the 10th and 20th largest.

Sh.itjust.works and lemmy.zip, not sure if shitjustworks is general purpose actually

have you checked out the porn one? some guy posted like 20 pictures of his dick

What do you look for in an instance? Many different instances with different uses and needs.

db0 is pretty good

In the same boat, though I’ve been here for almost 2 years lol

sdf.org instance is awesome.

you can join lemdro.id if you want

Might i recommend lemmynsfw.com?

Does it really matter where you go? It's all federated together anyway, that's the whole point, isn't it?