Greentext entry: anon learns happiness is simpler than he thought

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[–] 97 points 1 year ago (8 children)
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    Sometimes realistic is way lower than you are led to believe.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Sometimes what you are led to believe is also more closely related to some sales or marketing person's life goals than your own.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago

    Yeah, I would love to know how many people genuinely want to ride a Ferrari in this case, and how many are willing to live a life from the magazine cover, only to be disappointed if they ever get there.

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  • [–] 51 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    I was depressed in high school and talking to my mom about happiness and one of the things she said to me, was that often real happiness comes from learning to be happy with being content.

    At the time I honestly found the thought kind of depressing, but it stuck with me and I've only seen it to be truer and truer as I've gotten older.

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  • [–] 43 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Better than what my mom told my depressed teenage ass: "not every one can be happy" and "suicide is something weak cowards think about". Thanks mom.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I hope you know that what your mom said to you is not the whole truth. "suicide is something weak cowards think about" is true, but you don't have to be a weak coward to think about suicide. "not every one can be happy" doesn't mean you and your loved ones are destined to not be happy.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    For anyone reading this you should know if you have suicidal or depresssed thoughts you are NOT weak or a coward despite what this person (or my mom) says.

    You can't help feeling like shit and want the pain to stop. It does NOT say anything about you, other than you are suffering. Fuck anyone else who says otherwise.

    Survive another day.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    Not to mention, in many situations suicidal feelings can be interpreted as a desire to mercy-kill oneself, which is more reflective of self respect than cowardice.

    Learning to live beside chronic suicidal feelings can look like staring it in the face every day and working to focus on the "mercy" part over the "kill" part.

    Its kind of a two-wolves situation, I think -- but neither of those wolves are cowards.

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  • [–] 31 points 1 year ago (6 children)
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    Isn't it more just appreciating the small joys in life? If thats complicated enough that it has to be a whole philosiphy then I think we're fucked as a species.

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  • [–] 30 points 1 year ago

    helping with dishes at home = happy

    Nice try, mom.

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  • [–] 22 points 1 year ago (14 children)

    Good start, anyone who wishes can use a level-up of this:

    You. Will. Die

    So might as well enjo the ride while it lasts

    Compared to known universe, you are less than a spec, you mean nothing. Everything means nothing. So might as well enjoy what you like

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    It doesn't matter that nothing matters because you can make your own meaning.

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  • [–] -2 points 1 year ago* (5 children)

    Nah, that's a road to hell. I will always know this "meaning" is my creation. So either I won't take it seriously or force myself to become dumb enough to believe my own fairy tales

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Nihilism isn't really a philosophy to live by, however. Humans seem to need purpose.

    After losing my religion, I struggled with this for a while. I decided that taking care of my people was my purpose and gave my life meaning. None of the rest of it is my responsibility, not the big questions, society, any of it. As long as I'm taking care of my family and helping them be happy, I'm mostly content.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    I can't comprehend why you are getting downvoted, please take my upvote

    Speaking broadly, humans are very much capable of living without purpose, but that needs a stable ground and very balanced system - something that mostly does not taken care of, but that cannot mean to belittle what you are doing - the way you live, it is better than what so many people are doing with their lives (and in many ways much wiser), and I am glad you found the strength and willingness to live as you do. Thank you for living like this

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    IDK, I pissed off the hivemind on another post and all my comments have been downvoted. Which is kind of fun, actually. Feels like Lemmy is becoming a real internet community.

    Anyhow, yeah. We're capable of living without purpose but I do think most of us need that purpose to feel content. It's a trope, Man's Search for Meaning and Purpose. This is just my answer to it. My answer is a lazy shortcut, I'm kind of over spirituality and most philosophy. If none of it matters, then I pick what matters to me and makes me happy.

    I like some people and the natural world the best, I define my purpose as taking care of them. It's a conscious decision but it does actually bring me existential peace.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    You. Will. Die.

    Speak for yourself. That said, I'm still enjoying the ride.

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    Its depending your happiness on your own state of being vs depending on external validation for your happiness.

    One day "it might not be much but I am genuinely content and happy"

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    I've started to enjoy my mornings (helps that it's summer).

    But just chilling in the morning with a tea I have found is a great way to start the day. Being rushed and stressed first thing in the morning is a recipe for a shit day.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    fried egg + rice is the best breakfast, fuck every shape of pancake

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    Pancakes aren't breakfast food anyways. They're dinner. You make slightly thicker crepes. You roll them up with bacon bits and blueberry preserve.

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    OpP adjusted to life expectations

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