If you want a similar approach to lemm.ee for defederation:

• https://lemmy.zip/instances
• https://lemmy.today/instances

Since the announcement thread is locked, thanks to the admins for their hard work.

I've moved to https://piefed.social/ - I really like the ability there to subscibe to whole topics rather than individual communities. But I'll miss lemm.ee's defederation policy.

I chose lemmy.blahaj.zone since most of the communities I participate in are there and they have been nothing but kind to me. I highly recommend it for other queer people who want to have a peaceful community free of transphobia.

https://piefed.social/

If you're considering non-Lemmy instances, then I can recommend kbin.earth, it's a MBin instance that has a similar approach to the defederation

lemm.ee was the best and why i stayed on lemmy. this stinks. but so long and thanks for all the fish

In general, while it's already huge, sh.itjust.works errs on the side of careful defederation. Afaik, none of the big instances are defederated at all.

It's pretty stable too. I think it's been down maybe twice for any significant length of time.

That's the two biggest factors in why it's where my main account is.

So, it's an option for sure.

A friend of mine is on lemdro.id, and he's able to reach all the usual instances. Same with dbzero, though they have a bit more focused set of policies. Both are very stable as well.

About the only instance that you'll run into trouble accessing from most is hexbear or whatever it's called now. All the other big/biggish ones are usually not defederated widely.