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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Expectation: When I share the plan I put together at the meeting tomorrow it's going to be so obvious that I don't know what I'm doing. It's been a good run and I've avoided it being too obvious until now but this is it. Everyone is going to be really confused and annoyed about their part and question every decision that's on here. I'm sure they are going to ask for someone else to step up and lead because they will have no confidence in me after this, I'll probably put my job and my reputation in the industry at risk. Maybe I should start thinking about other careers but I'm pretty useless at everything else. I don't want to go to sleep ... I hope tomorrow never comes....

Reality: The plan generates some good discussion and everything is fine. Guess I dodged a bullet again.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

So I have maybe an odd question. Your example gives a somewhat common enough experience on the web. So it leads me to believe that a significant portion of the population are this way.

At what level does this then begin to fall under a "disorder"? If most people do something, then isn't it really just considered normal and not any kind of pathology?

I started trialing low dose psych meds recently for anxiety/depression and it has got me thinking. If my thoughts and feelings are the same as almost everyone, then do I really have a disorder?

If everyone is abnormal, then what really and truly is "normal"?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Damn, i feel seen.

I keep playing future discussions in my mind, or hypothetical scenarios where i get physically hurt. The damn childhood trauma is a gift that keeps giving. It's a lot better now that i'm older, but my tweens were not a happy time.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

I'm sorry you didn't get the childhood all kids deserve

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I do this shit. I have grieved pets that haven’t even died yet by getting worked up in my head.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

It's fine to grieve still alive humans and pets. We keep both alive too long to satisfy our selfishness.