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I have an idea for an invention, but I don't have the tools or materials to make it, nor do I have the proper space to make it. I have blueprints drawn and experts consulted on design, but not the means to actually do it.
Unable to find love or happiness.
Completely anecdotal but...
I found a lot of happiness in my my hobbies. Rock climbing has been just perfect for me.
I found my wife on tinder, so maybe give that a try.
Good for you but I doubt I'll have any luck on any dating apps.
I do concede that I am probably not the usual. But it's probably at least worth a try.
Have you tried drugs? They won't get you either but maybe you won't care if you're zoinked all the time.
Can't access traditional drugs. But I've tried other things. They temporarily numb the pain. But it comes back and hits even harder....
I am looking into a career change but I've been doing the same type of job my whole career.
I have an upcoming interview for a job that sounds really interesting but I'm worried that I won't be able to highlight my transferable skills.
Does anyone have tips/suggestions?
Have ChatGPT brainstorm questions, then ask him to focus on transferable skills. Now you have an idea of what it might look like and you can think of how to explain it to ChatGPT.
Just nailed an interview because I prepped with ChatGPT. Gave it my resume, the position I was applying for, and some of my recent accomplishments and it helped me realize that I was a stronger candidate than I thought, so I was able to use that during the interview.
Please keep in mind that at no time do I ever believe ChatGPT blindly.
Is there some kind of project or proof of your abillity/portfolio you could bring in to showcase. Its always better if you have product to demonstrate your skills and knowledge so they can feel confident in your abillity to produce similar product for them
Narcissists at work. Seriously. Manipulative fucks who are ladder climbing and have little interest in the field. They make my life harder. I currently have to deal with one at work and I know many more are up ahead. How do you handle someone who basically shows classic signs of narcissism, and controlling and toxic behavior, especially when the person themselves are not in the slightest open to the idea of changing or being wrong or seeking help.
I've tried setting boundaries, being nice, being sneaky, being absent/avoidant and nothing seems to work. This person has chosen me for some reason to be their pet or something and they get angry when I sway from the script (which is the case on a daily basis).
Malignant compliance maybe? I had a boss who kept nagging me about stuff she didn't even know how to do so I decided to give her my undivided absolute attention calling her every time I was going to do somehing, every time while I was doing it, every time after completing the task and so on.
I did this for a while and only as a last resort because I was fed up with her attitude. It worked like a charm! Lol
I think that could be a helpful trick. I noticed someone else in our office did that to that person and this person got quite uncomfortable. :)
Cool! Just remember to use it sparingly and not let it become part of your personality.
"Either they leave or I leave" would be setting a boundary. Get some other people on your side in it.
What's the script? What happens if you just... Don't? (Really, the worst thing you can do to a narcissist is ignore them)
The script is that I am poor and helpless and need thei constant advice and directions to function.
Ignoring them makes them angry. Several times I tried to ignore something and get distance but it always increases their desire to "check" me and make sure I'm okay and in-script. So avoiding or ignoreing them exacerbates this. :(
Just something to keep in mind. If someone is a dick to you, abusive or ruthless, or just hurtful... 90% of the time, it's not you. It's them. There is something broken in them that makes them mean, and needing to hurt. They are malfunctioning.
The last 10% of the time... Own it and work hard to fix it...
But hurtful people hurt, not because of you, but because they are damaged and want to hurt people, and that's wrong.
Thank you for these words. When my ordeal began, it was hard to realize this straightout because that person looks and acts totally normal, except for the many microagression. They seem obsessed with how others perceive them, so their pristine image and me being a newcomer made me constantly blame myself until that slowly faded a bit each day as I came to realize the absolutely wise words you just typed above.
I've been living with my parents for almost 2 years now after graduating from university. Now, I have a job that pays me just enough to live off of and I've been wanting to move back to the city where I lived for University. But, my situation is as follows that prevents me from doing so. My dad has a condition, one of the worst conditions you can get, you can probably guess what it is and please don't say what it is because I don't like the word. Because of this, my dad can no longer work, and my mom has been trying to find work so I'm taking care of things. And, because of this condition, home life isn't as great as it used to be and my mental health has deteriorated to nearly nothing. I don't know what to do and how to get everything back to normal. I've been looking for apartments but how can I leave in good consciousness knowing what I'm leaving? I'm stuck and I cannot move literally and figuratively.
Thank you all for the advice. I've made a decision and I'm going to be moving to the city. My dad is in relatively good health right now so I think we can manage. Again, thank you all. I really appreciate it
All of you being burnt out all the time isnβt helping anyone. You have to take care of yourself, youβll be much better able to help and contribute to your family when youβre in a better mental and physical state. Iβd suggest (as someone else did) to find a place relatively nearby so you can still help but at least have your own spacer. Good luck!
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Buying a house
Unfortunately I think this is one you just gotta wait out. Eventually as the older population downsizes/ moves to assisted living/ dies, houses will become available.
Also, vote for governments that view housing as a human right and not an investment.
See if you qualify for any down payment assistance programs. Combined with an FHA loan, you could possibly get into a house with under $5k.
I live in an increasingly dystopian capitalist world where simple necessities for life are increasingly challenging to obtain, while the pressure for higher productivity for less pay continues to increase.
Join an organisation agitating for proletarian revolution. If there aren't any near you, you can start with trade union work to build a mass of militant workers that can form the base of a political organisation.
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TL-DR: I want dual axis solar array on my hiace rooftop
Explanation:
This video clearly states the advantage of having this feature on your solar, gives you more than 8 hrs of peak power (8:00 - 17:00) with a comparatively small surface area (perfect for space-concious application), compared to about 5 hrs laying it down flat (10:00 - 15:00)
And yes, I get it. A 30% increase in energy collection daily isn't significant to justify the maintenance that can come with actuation.
But as a guy living in a van full-time, 30% is the difference between having 2 ceiling fans on for an hr and 5 hrs through the night. Yap, full blast, it's hot here.
Further more; this video show-cases the single axis solar array, Then I started wondering, if it reaches high noon, this guy will have to I dunno, turn his car around? So that the solar panels can actuate another way around.
Surely there is a solution to this somewhere... right?
https://www.reddit.com/r/VanLife/comments/1avrsbd/rooftop_solar_tracker/
Looks like someone out there had the same idea.
They're currently selling a packaged system for ~$5k, which is a bit pricey, but maybe worth if you're full time on the van life. Looks like you could probably fit 2 of these units on a typical roof, obstructions permitting. Alternatively you could do one tracker and one flat unit.
It looks like ground based 2-axis tracking systems can be found for ~$500-1k, you'd just need to bring your own expertise to mount it to the roof and program the controls yourself.
Semi-unrelated: others mentioned painting your van white (which you already have) but I'll raise you one better - consider painting it with an IR-Emissive cooling paint, e.g., https://i2cool.com/
There's unfortunately few products on the market at this time, but keep your eyes peeled.
Oof, 5k? Thanks for the insight
Edit: On further reading, I noted that the package is 400 watts of solar.
I got approx 1kw on my roof and 9.6kw of batteries, so.. five-figures dollars π¬
The original plan was extending to about 1.5kw, but then I thought having tiltable 1.5kw will be significantly better
That's why I decided to tackle the tilting problem first.
Thanks for bringing roboteos on my radar.
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I'm fed up with streaming platforms and want to turn an old PC into a pirate movie streaming server. It'd be nice to have a detailed guide on what services to use, how to get it to stream to devices, and how to set up a VPN. I assume a Linux distro makes the most sense but I have no platform alleigence. I'm generally pretty competent with computers but I'd like the guide to assume I know nothing about Linux, because I my only experience is with my steam deck
I can help start you off if you want.
(To ward off the mods all of these suggestions are for personal photos and personal video files, created by, or for the user, and in no way am I recommending that piracy is ok or legal)
There are a few frontend/backend solutions that you can pick from that are popular and well supported.
- plex
- Jellyfin
- Kodi
Plex and jellyfin are my picks as those are what Iβve used. They will work on any laptop or desktop running windows/mac/Linux (with some caveats).
The front end that you pick can be a steaming device like a Amazon fire stick, Roku, or AppleTV, this also includes smart TVs, (not all TVs support all or any) for widest support an Android tv would work).
As for where to get your media files there are a lot of options out there, but be careful (I donβt know the this instanceβs stance on site recommendations so I canβt list them). As for how, torrenting is still the most popular, but not the only option. Youβll need a torrent program to get the files to download to your βserverβ. It is also very encouraged and recommended to use a vpn while you download and seed to protect yourself.
While not expansive or detailed I hope this helps.
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With zero sarcasm: thank you for taking the time to write that explanation out.
However, this is kind of exactly what I'm talking about. You're saying I can use plex, or jellyfin, or kodi, with all the opperating systems (but not?) and you say I can stream to smart TVs, are Chromecasts smart? I can follow instructions, I just don't understand how this technology stack works together. Nobody even tells me what Linux distro to use!
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