Yeah, that depends what you mean by small talk. I think you know what you mean, but I'm not sure that we know what you mean.
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I wish I knew why small talk is important and why the example in the post is a problem. It would be helpful if someone could explain it.
If you date someone for 2+ years, at that point, you know what their opinions are on all meaningful topics. All there is left to discuss is small talk: how's your day, did you like the TV show, etc.
Unless your both happy sitting in silence, you'll probably drift apart.
Edit: I think the issue a lot of people here have is not small talk itself, its small talk with strangers. Asking a loved one about their day is small talk, but that doesn't diminish its value.
I've been married for 7 years. I do ask my wife how her day was, but that is because I actually care. How can people do this with strangers? Is it just assumed everyone is asking everyone else how their day was even if they don't actually care?
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Actually I have this kind of conversations. I don't care so much about monkey problems
I love small talk. It's just noises that communicate emotion or very basic information, and it has a script!
I think no matter what we do most of the things are outoff our control