I would actually be kind of proud of my kids if they threw a successful party with their friends when I was out of town. It seems like kids barely party anymore. As long as they clean up afterwards and don't break a bunch of stuff, I'd pretend not to notice.
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Have you considered letting them party and being a cool responsible adult that sticks around to make sure everyone is safe. I had some friends growing up with parents like this. Their theory was the kids are going to party anyway so if you give them a safe space its less likely to go poorly. Anyone who got a little too sick or emotional ended up with an experienced adult to help them recover.
Stock the fridge with Pedialyte, waffle mix, orange juice, and bacon, and your house will be the favorite of the kids around the neighborhood.
It's important as the adult to help the totally-legal kids who don't quite know how to handle alcohol recover from a bad night.
"Yeah dude just encourage kids to drink at your house bro enable underage drinking dude what are you a loser bro just give the kids some alcohol"
It's better than them going out somewhere to do it. They need to learn to drink responsibly and do it safely.
Yeah I'm gonna catch a felony charge so somebody else's kids can have fun...
Edit because I want to bring home my point: there is a big difference between teaching your kid how to responsibly handle alcohol and enabling kids who are not your own to drink at your house. It is not paradoxical to say
Mature teens and young adults should know how to responsibly use alcohol:
And
Legal adults should never encourage or enable underage drinking from children who are not their own at their house.
Some parents did this back when I was in high school. The police were called and the parents were arrested.
They also tried claiming the whole "We're just trying to be safe" thing, but it didn't work.
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Problem is it looks worse to a judge if the adults were present at the party. It’s liability.
Perhaps the more disturbing thing is they lack the drive to break the rules.
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I'm relatively young and yeah, I barely ever party. Never did it much as a teen, and I do it even less as an adult in my 20's. It's just not all that fun to me.
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Oh no. Where I live we do party. Me and my friend groups meet up almost every week to party and almost always we randomly meet new people. It's lots of fun.
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Bigger problem is mfs just spend the weekend braindead doomscrolling the internet and don't even want to have parties.
Oh. Hi. That's me, right now.
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Maybe, just maybe, the issue is the parents not letting go and not accessibility to cameras.
Before cameras everyone had a window granny who reported everything happening in the neighborhood. And even then, parents knew what was happening. The goal was that kids would fear that the parents would discover something is amiss and clean after themselves.
Back when I was a teen, my folks would go away for a month and a half every summer and leave us kids behind (we were teenagers and didn't want to go) and obviously we would throw parties. One year I had cleaned the house really well and thought there was no way they would know. My dad came home and that's how I learned he keeps two cold beers in the fridge for when he gets home. And they were gone.
He wasn't mad we threw parties, he wasn't mad we were underage drinking, but he was mad his two cold getting-home beers had been drank and not replaced. And that's how I found out my parents are humans who knew we were having parties and they didn't care as long as we didn't die or mess with their shit.
The point isn't that they don't have fun. Its that they clean up so good we don't have to clean shit when we get home.
That’s how it worked before the cameras.
lol, never thought of it that way
My parents knew I had had a house party because it was too clean, they said I wouldn't have cleaned if I wasnt trying to hide something. They were right tbh
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That and with the parents working from home, how often are they out of the house long enough to throw a party or even raid the alcohol cabinet?
turn off the wifi. boom no more ring and nest cams. problem solved.
Teenagers don't listen to this parent in disguise. Most modern cameras and record everything locally and/or viacloud. You'd physically have to go to each camera and unplug if they aren't already battery operated AND kill the wifi.
If just just turn off the wifi they'll record them just upload everything when they get internet again lol.
Good luck trying to explain that away to your parents though lol.
Unless you running an NVR, do not believe many cloud based cameras will record locally. Fewer would have batteries. I think some doorbell cameras may send still photos with motion that may get send on reconnection. The video is likely lost.
I install commercial cameras and nearly all have capability for SD cards and local storage but never had a need to utilize that.
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My dad did have cameras all over the house while I was in high school. But there weren’t any in my room so we could hang out in there. There also weren’t any in the bathroom so we could stash the alcohol in there and just pour it into cups.
Both of these required a parent not that dedicated to actually stopping his kids from partying though. But a parent sufficiently dedicated was always going to be able to find out somehow.
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Just unplug the router and no internet access. ;)
No idea why the internet goes out every time you guys are out of town. So weird!!
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Good luck in my house, server is in a locked room and only way they can kill my cameras is by unplugging for 6 hours so the ups is depleted. Checkmate kids.
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That doesn't solve anything. Your neighbors have security cameras too. They can share then with your parents. Your parents can watch video from other cameras if the neighborhood is on the same brand/network.
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The kids actually figured out how to log in and disable the cameras or mute notifications and then delete memory 🥴
Let the kids have fun, what's wrong with these parents?
Dog you're not even getting started on how hard it is to be social as a kid/teen nowadays. Parents are spending so much more time with and around their kids too, because it's necessary when kids can't walk anywhere and have no skate parks or malls to go to anyway.
A neighbor would just tell on you. I got busted by random neighborhood parents skipping school or sneaking out.
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