I see this phrase used a lot on blahaj lemmy. I’m actually bi but I don’t really like using the word ‘folk’ over ‘people’... it just kinda sounds pretentious, I don't want to be described like a mythical creature

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[–] 54 points 2 years ago

It stems from an old proverb: "there is naught so queer as folk", essentially meaning "people are strange". The meaning of "queer" has shifted and narrowed over time to refer to sexuality, but kept its ties to this idiom, resulting in the TV show "queer as folk" and the generic phrase "queer folk".

There is nothing especially pretentious or mythical about the word. It may just be your own assumptions/interpretations of it. Far more people have an issue with the word "queer" than they do "folk". If you don't like it, don't use it, but you should also aim to shake the stigma from it, as it's not what 99.9% of people mean when they use it.

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  • [–] 28 points 2 years ago

    "Folk" is pretentious in your mind? I would think the opposite were more true. Having "folksy charm" means you're more grounded and personable when describing someone you find to be outside the norm.

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  • [–] 25 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    "Folk" seems to denote a culture more, while "people" seems to denote you're just pointing and saying "them people".

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  • [–] 20 points 2 years ago

    Folk just means people, in fact it's less pretentious because it's the commoner english word for people, from English's germanic roots (see the german word Volk)

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  • [–] 18 points 2 years ago*

    Queer folk are your community members where queer people are a demographic of the population.

    In my case queer folk and trans folk and LGBT+ folk come from a tip from Santa training, where you talk about a kid's folks instead of parents, so as to not raise issues when kids don't have them but guardians instead.

    Queer folk are the people among my crew and homies and mates who identify as queer or queer-adjacient.

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  • [–] 18 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    There is actually a mostly unrelated phrase from the north of England; “Nowt queer as folk.” Meaning ‘People can be strange in their behaviour’.

    This may or may not have fed into ‘Queer Folk’. But it certainly was the source of a UK TV drama series called ‘Queer as Folk’ in the 90s.

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  • [–] 15 points 2 years ago

    Folk is pretentious? It literally means common people, the opposite of pretentiousness. I am thinking that you don't have much familiarity with the word nor the people that use it. It does not carry the meaning that you seem to think it does.

    You are likely hearing /seeing it being used by people raised in an area where that is common vernacular to casually identify a group of people that share a culture.

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  • [–] 12 points 2 years ago

    I think in more recent times it has to do with using folks as an easy gender neutral address instead of saying you guys etc, and then it spread out everywhere because it is, well, easier and people don't want to think too much.

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  • [–] 10 points 2 years ago

    “folk” does not refer to mythical creatures

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  • [–] 9 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Folk is a gender neutral alternative to guys/girls etc. It's used where you might use a term like that, not where you'd use "people"

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago

    So folk songs are fairy songs?

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    [–] 4 points 2 years ago*

    The prose sounds better. Fewer syllables.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago

    I just want to say I get where you're coming from. It sounds similar to the way people say "fairy folk" which I assume is why you mention mythical creatures. I guess a lot of people in this thread are less familiar with that usage.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    why do people care so much about the use of one word over another?

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

    A total guess on my part, but it's just been in the lexicon for so long, including a title of a TV show, that its just set in at this point.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago

    I use the term folks to refer to my parents but that may be regional or generational.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 years ago

    Idk, but I had a CD by Queer as Folk given to me by a gay friend, and that music kicked ass. Maybe it has to do with that music? I think the music was the soundtrack to a TV show. Maybe it has to do with that TV show?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    I dont know, but did anyone else giggle like an idiot because they always liked to say to myself, Queer ass Folk instead of Queer as Folk.

    And im like mostly sure thats what the show runners wanted, but im okay pretending they didnt and im just amusing myself

    And for the record i just like the wordplay in spite of it not being particularly clever and very obvious.

    Yes i do like terrible puns as well. Not sorry

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    I don’t know, I don’t say that but I do say “right wing folk”. Clueless as to what that means though.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 years ago

    I used to not use "folk" but have switched cause it's easier to type 😅

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  • [–] -1 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    How do you say "group of diverse people"?

    • "You all" Cumbersome
    • "Guys" Too sexist
    • "Y'all" Too Southern

    I stick with "folks"...

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  • [–] -3 points 2 years ago

    They're not people, folk them

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    [+] -6 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Don’t know. Don’t care

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  • [+] -7 points 2 years ago

    You sound really pretentious by judging how other people communicate with benign words that you don't like.

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