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Because they are? The absolute majority of all relationships are monogamous. How is that even a question? lol Do you go about this when trying to date too? Do you just not say that you want to fuck around with other people, expecting them to just accept it anyway? Because that's called cheating. If you want to have a non monogamous relationship, then you have to make that clear right from the start, discussing all boundaries that come with it to which both / all partners can agree upon. Anything else, again, makes you a cheater.
What the everliving fuck. Of course I ask all my partners to give consent before I add someone new to my polycule. Every single time. Do you add new people to your polycule without consulting your partners just because they're polyamorous? That's cheating.
I don't have to "tell" my partners I'm poly, because I don't cheat. If you think you can just tell your partners you're poly and then date whoever you want, you're wrong and that's a dangerous belief. Please never tell anyone else that polyamoury works like that, because it doesn't. I've had to educate far too many partners who thought like you and would have cheated on me if I hadn't been careful to establish explicit boundaries.
Congrats on completely avoiding the point I was making. You're outright telling someone you're poly, because you know the expectation is that you're not, because it isn't the norm.
No, I've actually only ever had two partners who were monoamorous by default. The first two. Everyone afterwards immediately knew I was poly without having to be told. And was poly too. I mean I would have asked them to consent to being metamours with all my existing partners anyway so definitely no cheating since you brought that weird point up. But if you're now deciding the point is people's assumptions, everyone I know assumes people are poly. If someone in my circles is monoam they actually have it listed in their bio so everyone knows not to flirt with them.
Sounds like I just have gayer friends than you do and you're assuming everyone is like your boring friends.
Do you even have any otherkin friends?
I guess you're all mind readers huh?
Why would they do that?
The fuck does that even mean?
Do you even do therapy? Jesus fuck. You've gotta be trolling.
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Are you okay mate? This is not the diction of a stable person. Gotta be a troll.
For sure homie.
Some sort of god complex? Get help.
Or, a 10/10 troll. Unsure.