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So basically I said I just wanted space for some time. She took this as that she's never allowed to talk to me again.

Yesterday her lover(26M), which is also a friend of mine, I've known for a long time, came to talk to me and told me this. He also doesn't want to do anything with me until I start being friends with her again, because he thinks he's standing between us.

I tried doing activities with both of them together, but somehow it always makes me miserable to see her happy with someone else.

Next week is a festival where we planned to go together and I lined everything up to see how things are going or in which direction we can move from here. For info: Another girl is also going with us I think the dynamic would change a bit. There's also a lot of other people I know at the festival.

I feel like I should just talk to 20F, but I don't think I will tell her anything she want's to hear. So I don't know if this can improve the situation in any way.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (8 children)

UPDATE: I had already booked a second apartment for the festival. I wrote my friend (26M) before that I didn't really know if it was a good idea to go to the festival with them. (I also wrote her) He reassured my decision to go with them with the simple statement "I think we can manage this". So I cancelled my single apartment and went with them and the other girl. It went pretty much how I expected it. I discovered the festival on my own and spent most of the time with other people I know and the girl I didn't know before. The two (20F and 26M) spent almost all time together, so I spent most of the time we were together with the other girl. Also, another couple came on the day before the last day and spent the night at our place. This was another opportunity to spend the night with other people and reconnect.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (7 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hospitality on the Beach in Croatia

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Nice, it looks fun, although I don't recognize a single band on the lineup haha. How was it?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I want to add, if you don't like the music, you still have a vacation in Croatia ;)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I will have to check out some of the music - can't say I ever really have listened to that genre. Any good artists you recommend?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't know your style so I will recommend some I saw at the festival: Camo & Krooked, Mefjus, Mozey, A.M.C, Monrroe, Jumpin Jack Frost. Aaand some others: Monss, Disphonia, Primate, Commix, Phibes.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'm the type that listens to a little bit of everything. Awesome, thanks for the recs! Screenshotted!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

It's mostly Drum and Bass DJs that are somewhat related to Hospital Records (UK). So, a lot of UK people there (recognizable by the balloons :). Almost all of the sets I saw were great. Also I had friends in the resort directly behind the main stage :D (ideal to decide when to leave the balcony and go raving)

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