morally an ethically not letting society dictate. What you do with your own money is the correct stance

Eww, sounds like some anti-tax libertarian filth 🤢

it's absolutely ridiculous that people make statements trying to guilt trip you into thinking that you owe it to someone else to give your hard-earned money to them because their employer decides not to do it.

Answered your own rhetorical question. If the employer was forced to pay them a living wage (or did so voluntarily, but that's as rare as an ethical bank), you wouldn't need to tip, but until then, you're gonna have to pay so that the person who just performed a service for you doesn't go hungry or homeless.

And no I'm not saying don't tip

Could have fooled me!

what I'm saying is don't support businesses that expect you to pay their employees wages.

You should have led with that, then, rather than sounding like a deranged libertarian (but I repeat myself) for the first half of your reply

what I'm saying is don't support businesses that expect you to pay their employees wages.

I agree in principle, but in reality they're as like a politician that doesn't accept any form of bribes: extremely rare and in many areas they don't exist at all

I significantly cut down eating at restaurants

Good for you, but if everyone did that, servers would all get fired rather than just underpaid.

absolutely hate the narrative of people guilt tripping other people because they choose not to tip. That is their obligation in right and they should absolutely not feel bad about it whatsoever.

Aaand we're back to the libertarian tantrum of focusing on "-I- shouldn't have to" rather than "their bosses should have to" 🙄