Narcissism and assholery are not mutually exclusive. Same goes with with being a victim of abuse. Nor is it considered being disabled. Nor is there basis to assume the person you replied to hates disabled people.
Just wanted to chime in to point out that not a single thing you said is accurate. Which is somewhat impressive.
In any case, a common trait of being a narcissist is martyrdom. I suspect I'll get something to that effect.