I want to make a wider point about how we are too often content to put the blame for misogyny on men who, quite pointedly, are not interacting with women, and do not actually hold concrete power over very much at all. And I mean specifically this unforced error where we reify the social order by categorizing rejects and aberrations as the real threat and not, like, men with power and social capital. The majority of femicide isn't committed by an Elliott Rogers or a Marc Lepine or a dark, alien presence lurking in an alleyway. Violence to women is overwhelmingly done by partners, parents, teachers, and bosses.

but i'm too sleepy so don't bother me abt it