submitted 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) by to c/youshouldknow@lemmy.world
 

Why YSK: These email tips are helpful for people who struggle with boundaries and want to communicate more assertively.

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[–] 80 points 3 years ago (13 children)

To be honest, I find most of these passive aggressive and patronizing.

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  • [–] 16 points 3 years ago (8 children)

    I agree, but, you'd be surprised how many people find many of these seemingly innocuous distinctions offensive (if only a little bit). For example, I was once chided by HR for saying 'no problem' during a seemingly friendly discussion.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 years ago (3 children)

    I mean apparently some people think a thumbs up in a chat is passive aggressive.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago) (2 children)

    Most? I can definitely see "when can I expect an update?", that one's terrible. "It would be best if we" sounds pretty self-assured without a modifier such as "in my opinion" (which is what the original option was doing). "Nice catch!" is also a bit too honeyed and casual as well. But I don't see a problem with the rest of them.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 years ago

    I actually like nice catch, as long as it’s not an egregious error. There are often going to be mistakes in a document, even when prepared by someone completely competent. This acknowledges someone as being part of a process instead of focusing on an error.

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