I met a guy on a dating app, and our first two dates were amazing. He even commented on how naturally we clicked and how effortlessly conversation flowed. I felt a magnetic pull unlike anything I'd experienced, and for the first time, wondered if this could be something real. I was really attracted to him, felt seen and heard, and was excited about our potential.

For context, after several intense, career-focused years, I planned two much-needed trips before starting my next role: a longer family trip followed by a short solo trip, with two weeks at home in between. We started messaging before my first trip and met during those two weeks. He's not much of a traveler and asked whether that bothered me (I said it doesn't). I didn't want to postpone getting to know him, but I also didn't want to feel guilty for taking time I'd already planned for my well-being and unplugging.

Despite our chemistry, I've noticed a possible pattern of feeling faulted for things I don't think I've done wrong, along with other uncertainties:

• Communication: He followed up during my longer trip even while knowing I'd be unplugging. I replied as soon as I could and was happy he showed interest, though I didn't apologize for the delay.
• Second date: He arrived 15 minutes early, to which I replied I may be five minutes late due to traffic after an important professional meeting. I ultimately arrived right on time per the original plan (and reservation time), but he later half-jokingly called me late. He also complained about aspects of the venue I'd thoughtfully planned out and covered.
• Physical intimacy: He held my hand and kissed me, but the unexpectedly tongue-heavy kissing threw me off. I was relieved he hadn't pushed for physical intimacy on our first date, as I'm looking not looking to rush that part or engage casually. When we discussed intentions, he said he wasn't rushing but wouldn't continue dating someone without long-term potential.
• Before my solo trip: I told him I'd be unplugging again but would text when I returned. He said we could plan something then. He initiated a goodnight text afterward and liked my first reply, but ignored my message wishing him fun at an event he'd invited me to, which I'd previously explained might conflict with my travels, which it did.

As soon as I got back, I warmly reached out as promised, only to discover he'd unmatched me on the dating app. I was shocked. My phone had water damage during the trip, so there's a slight possibility I missed a text, but I doubt it. His initial response felt colder, saying we "could possibly" meet after he finished packing for his move. However, he eventually followed through and planned our third date: dinner tonight.

Here's my dilemma: I just got my period, have cramps, and don't feel 100% physically and emotionally. But I'm worried that canceling last-minute could make him walk away for good, especially if he already feels I've been unavailable or that he's given me multiple chances, even though I communicated my travel plans upfront.

I also want to understand why he unmatched me. I'd like to ask candidly and would rather know where we stand than keep guessing.

What would you do in my shoes? Would you push through and go to dinner tonight, or suggest rescheduling? Would a phone call be better to gauge his interest and willingness to connect without physical intimacy? On the flip side, maybe asking about the unmatching (in the event he didn't delete his account) should only be in person rather than over the phone.

I'd really appreciate your thoughts and perspectives because I genuinely like him, but I'm struggling with these mixed signals and trying to decide next steps.