I have seen a post that got 15 upvotes that was advertising online sex and asking for people to DM them. I am confident that the moderators will remove it. However, I am disturbed that most of the comments replying to it believed nothing was wrong and actually requested to exchange DMs with this person.

A while ago I saw a post about someone in an online relationship with another person saying they meet over a kink discord server and a majority of the replies were encouraging them and this relationship instead of concern.

After this latest thing I can't take it anymore. I should have reached my limit after the first thing and I can name several other red flags, but I realized only now that I was becoming accustomed to it.

If a significant portion of this community cannot practice basic cyber safety, especially around sex, then I think this is an unsafe place that creates an environment of encouragement around unsafe online sexual conduct.

This is supposed to be a transfem community and transfems are a minority group especially susceptible to sexual cyber abuse. Nobody here should tolerate the encouragement of unsafe online conduct or engage in it.

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[–] 4 points 1 week ago (9 children)

Can you explain which specific things made you think it wasn't genuine?

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  • [–] [S] 12 points 1 week ago (8 children)

    Everything about that hacker girl post was a red flag, it's completely unacceptance to advertise online sex even if it was genuine.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago (7 children)

    She wasn't specifically advertising online sex

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  • [–] 15 points 1 week ago (6 children)

    starts with desire for fwb or something else. moves to quarter million salary (20k to 40k/ mo x 12 mo = 240k to 480k/yr), talks about tons of sharks, tv, and everyone's favorite, a switch. and now they are 9.5 uncut. oh and as long as you are 18 all is green in their book. can even be as high as 38.

    that type of post isnt kosher by craigslist standards. and i mean craigslist back in the day with personals wouldnt wanna see this.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    Even more sus how that one post is all the OPs account got used for. There were no interactions on lemmy other than bait-y posts. Like, I'd imagine someone with that many sharks would maybe make a post in the blahaj community or something.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 week ago (2 children)

    Is that the cybersecurity girl who lives in Tokyo, or am I confused?

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  • [–] 1 point 1 week ago (1 child)

    i think it was tokyo iirc. but yeah, japan nonetheless

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  • Yeah, so if this is the person I think it is, then she's a real trans woman (i.e not a man passing himself off as a trans woman). We had a Discord server in common, and I talked to her a bit, but I noped out quickly because of the… pretty aggressive flirting right of the bat (and the age gap too).
    IMO she might just be an emotionally immature young trans woman who is maybe not making the best decisions in her life. Haven't seen her posts on Lemmy apart from her initial one though.

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