I live in NYC and work in NJ. It's sucks. The area near NY is so packed with people it's crazy. Just as dense as NY, but nothing to offer except insane traffic on roads never designed to handle that many people. Think crazy suburban sprawl but just fucking PACKED with people. I have also worked with the shittiest people ever. I'm an electrical engineer, the people I work on NJ are the laziest I've ever seen in the industry.
It really is just a sad place.