I am ten years post op and well. In the beginning I dilated but after a few months a cismale friend shamed me into not doing it as much. I don't know if this is why...

My vaginal depth isn't a problem. I'm a good five inches deep. But the opening doesn't seem to be wide enough.

I have a boyfriend and recently we've become sexually active, I love him and want to experience intimacy with him... but when I ride him I can't get his phallus to go in..

So he gets me on my back and manages to insert himself into me, but it hurts. Depth isn't the issue.. I'm not wide enough for him to properly get in.

I don't know what to do. Is there a dilation regimen I could try or do I need to see a doctor about this?

Thank you. And I'm sorry if I did tmi.