Very good comment, thank you. I figured there was some context I was missing. I have to wonder if people might be referring to different things when they talk about having figured themselves out, because either my own case is very similar to yours ("hmm I sure spend a lot of time thinking about being a girl and kissing boys… oh well, I'm sure that's not significant! just teenage hormones or something! let's not give into those fantasies under any circumstances!" ) or it's completely dissimilar, because I wouldn't say I have myself figured out even now that I'm in my mid-20s.

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