you realize it's incredibly common for folks to do this? of any gender?

i broke up with most of my exes because they false presented themselves to me. they saw absolutely nothing wrong with it, and to them I was the one who was awful and terrible for not 'loving and accepting them for who they really are'. i had one ex who specific said 'you'd have never dated me if i had told you the truth'.

was I sexually assaulted by those women? who deliberately lied to me to have sex and engage in a relationship with me?

I don't think very many people would consider what they did as sexual assault.