It's not a good idea to run defense for people who are narcissists when you know nothing about them as a person.

There are people with NPD who are abusers and horrible people, just like there are people without NPD who are also abusers and horrible people. It's naive to think otherwise.

Not every single person with NPD is this innocent misunderstood soul who deserves to be coddled in forgiveness and you need to accept that.