I was invited to my brother's wedding, but he didn't invite my mother because he still has a petty grudge against her, and he obviously wants to turn me against my mother. I've also ignored the RSVP, but I don't know if anyone knows this.

I did not tell my co-workers about the wedding. I didn't even WANT to bring the subject up. But my co-workers know my brother very well, and they REALLY want me to go to my brother's wedding. I told them "Let me check my schedule" because I don't want to talk to them about my family drama, but they told me "You have to go. You want to see them walking your nephew, right?"

What am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to avoid this conversation? How can I tell them I'm not going without creating drama?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] 5 points 20 hours ago

One option I'm not seeing presented is to politely show up, offer congratulations, and then slip out early before any group photos or anyone can pull you aside to talk drama

Or if that's not doable just don't go. Any coworker harasses you for it, report to HR.

  • source