I mean realistically Matrix is what people should, but won't use. So ignoring that Ive been sorta cheering for stoat.
The team actually seems to care about the project in like that... "old school open source" way, and they dont use ai. I believe funding is all donation only too, which is quite nice.
They had like 4 lines of ai code they removed and some people took that as 'omg stoat uses ai' and ran away from it, but IMO stoat is a good balance between discord-like and my "vibe check" as it were.