Scenario: It's night, and a man is walking home. He sees ahead there is a woman going in the opposite direction as him. Knowing not to stop or approach her, but his presence makes her nervous. What would help further in this scenario if anything?

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[–] 4 points 12 hours ago* (2 children)

To tell you something that actually helps:

Keep your hands in view. Fidget a bit if you want.

If you're walking towards her, take a glance at her from about I'd say 5-10 meters away.

Walk a clear path. Pick a lane so she can pick hers to pass you.

Think of something else for a second. Look at a car, building, cloud.

Hit a street sign. You'll make her laugh, she'll feel 100% safe then.

In all seriousness now that should let her know you don't have any dangerous objects in your hand, she'll know you acknowledged her presence, and she'll see you're not 100% focused on her. That's kinda all a girl needs to not be weirded out.

:-)

@BeardededSquidward@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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  • [–] 1 point 55 minutes ago (1 child)

    When do I hand her the note with large crayon letters misspelling "It's OK, I'm not weyrd or annything!", though? Using colorful and friendly letters, of course.

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  • [–] 1 point 11 minutes ago

    Man, that advice helped me a few years ago. Idk. It wasn't a massive difference but some people told me I act more natural, so I think it worked?

    I used to be very awkward and pretty much every girl my age would avoid being close to me. Now that is not an issue anymore. Idk if that helped or other changes I made, or both...

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