Agreed with most of what you said. Don't like the gatekeeping over what a person plays though.
Pvp helped when i was mourning the loss of a fam member. That's aside from other therapies though. And it wasn't where I dropped all other responsibilities including handling estate.
Him shirking is bad enough regardless of what game he played. You had strong enough points on that.
I Just don't like the gatekeeper shit in the gaming community. We got enough of that. Let's do better than this. To each their own.