▲ 115 ▼ [Serious] What are some advantages of being over 40 years old and getting older? (lemmy.world) submitted 1 month ago by AnthropomorphicCat@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world 101 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 54 points 1 month ago* (3 children) Depends on the person, but in my case: Financial stability Fewer worries I've learned to relax and not take things too seriously. Especially when it comes to myself. I finally know what I'm gonna do "when I grow up" Time and resources to spend on my hobbies permalink fedilink source hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] lemmyng@lemmy.world 43 points 1 month ago (2 children) Hard emphasis on "Depends on the person." I have a friend in their early 40s who currently can't meet anything on this list due to financial hardships and unstable living conditions. I also have two elderly friends who are unhoused due to all the shelters being booked as a result of the heat. Fuck Amerikkka by the way. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Asafum@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago I can +1 this. I'm that guy. Especially #1,2 &4... If my landlord dies (she's in her 70s and not doing well) I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do. I have an absurdly low rent for the area I'm in (1,400/month +utilities for a shit garage "apartment" is considered cheap here...) and if I have to move it will be out of the state and I have to leave my job... Being an uneducated piece of shit my job prospects, especially in this economy, are pretty much nil. permalink fedilink source parent [–] kibblebits@quokk.au 7 points 1 month ago My sister in-law is from that country you simp for, and an entire section of her family has been living on the street for decades. So, fuck the world, pal. permalink fedilink source parent [–] naeap@sopuli.xyz 15 points 1 month ago* Financial stability... Seems I'm doing something wrong Fewer worries? I didn't gave a shit in my 20th, since my burnout I'm a complete wreck I think, everyone has something different at that age I do start to notice, what's actually important to me, but being a nerve wreck, I don't have the base to really go for the things, I care about permalink fedilink source parent [–] Magister@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (3 children) I finally know what I’m gonna do “when I grow up” how? I know after 40 I just resigned myself I will not be something else when I would grew up (mechanic, doctor, lawyer, whatever) and that I'll be a software developer for the rest of my life :-/ permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] NottaLottaOcelot@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago It’s mostly acceptance that you are already grown up, and a career change involves financially weighing the benefits of the new career vs the lost income to train for it. Add to it the fact that the working runway gets shorter and shorter which reduces the financial payoff, and you’re not changing careers after your 40s unless it’s for love/enjoyment. I think we were sold a lot of Hollywood bullshit about living for your job and working all evening or dream jobs that involved taking our laptops to Starbucks to plan parties for the rich and famous. But at the end of the day, a job is a job - nobody would pay you to do it if it was that fun. And so my choice is to make as much as I can to allow me to enjoy my leisure time, which means staying in my current career where I have already climbed the ladder. permalink fedilink source parent [–] echo@lemmy.today 4 points 1 month ago There is some truth to this... I've moved on from the ideas that I might be highly influential or consequential. Now I just focus on trying to be a good person, do good deeds that keep me happy, tell nazis to DIAF, etc. No fame to be had for me. Other than a few immediate family members, I'll be forgotten to time when I die. permalink fedilink source parent [–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) Luck, basically. I landed a career that I actually enjoy, it pays decently, and I'm given a lot of freedom and flexibility. I tried having a "normal job", but in my mid 30s I concluded that normal jobs are for normal people, so I reached out to some former coworkers and got back into offshore seismic survey. I have since landed a supporting role where most of it is done from home. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Magister@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago I still enjoy being a software developer, I also WFH since COVID which is incredible permalink fedilink source parent
[–] lemmyng@lemmy.world 43 points 1 month ago (2 children) Hard emphasis on "Depends on the person." I have a friend in their early 40s who currently can't meet anything on this list due to financial hardships and unstable living conditions. I also have two elderly friends who are unhoused due to all the shelters being booked as a result of the heat. Fuck Amerikkka by the way. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Asafum@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago I can +1 this. I'm that guy. Especially #1,2 &4... If my landlord dies (she's in her 70s and not doing well) I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do. I have an absurdly low rent for the area I'm in (1,400/month +utilities for a shit garage "apartment" is considered cheap here...) and if I have to move it will be out of the state and I have to leave my job... Being an uneducated piece of shit my job prospects, especially in this economy, are pretty much nil. permalink fedilink source parent [–] kibblebits@quokk.au 7 points 1 month ago My sister in-law is from that country you simp for, and an entire section of her family has been living on the street for decades. So, fuck the world, pal. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Asafum@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago I can +1 this. I'm that guy. Especially #1,2 &4... If my landlord dies (she's in her 70s and not doing well) I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do. I have an absurdly low rent for the area I'm in (1,400/month +utilities for a shit garage "apartment" is considered cheap here...) and if I have to move it will be out of the state and I have to leave my job... Being an uneducated piece of shit my job prospects, especially in this economy, are pretty much nil. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] kibblebits@quokk.au 7 points 1 month ago My sister in-law is from that country you simp for, and an entire section of her family has been living on the street for decades. So, fuck the world, pal. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] naeap@sopuli.xyz 15 points 1 month ago* Financial stability... Seems I'm doing something wrong Fewer worries? I didn't gave a shit in my 20th, since my burnout I'm a complete wreck I think, everyone has something different at that age I do start to notice, what's actually important to me, but being a nerve wreck, I don't have the base to really go for the things, I care about permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Magister@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (3 children) I finally know what I’m gonna do “when I grow up” how? I know after 40 I just resigned myself I will not be something else when I would grew up (mechanic, doctor, lawyer, whatever) and that I'll be a software developer for the rest of my life :-/ permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] NottaLottaOcelot@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago It’s mostly acceptance that you are already grown up, and a career change involves financially weighing the benefits of the new career vs the lost income to train for it. Add to it the fact that the working runway gets shorter and shorter which reduces the financial payoff, and you’re not changing careers after your 40s unless it’s for love/enjoyment. I think we were sold a lot of Hollywood bullshit about living for your job and working all evening or dream jobs that involved taking our laptops to Starbucks to plan parties for the rich and famous. But at the end of the day, a job is a job - nobody would pay you to do it if it was that fun. And so my choice is to make as much as I can to allow me to enjoy my leisure time, which means staying in my current career where I have already climbed the ladder. permalink fedilink source parent [–] echo@lemmy.today 4 points 1 month ago There is some truth to this... I've moved on from the ideas that I might be highly influential or consequential. Now I just focus on trying to be a good person, do good deeds that keep me happy, tell nazis to DIAF, etc. No fame to be had for me. Other than a few immediate family members, I'll be forgotten to time when I die. permalink fedilink source parent [–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) Luck, basically. I landed a career that I actually enjoy, it pays decently, and I'm given a lot of freedom and flexibility. I tried having a "normal job", but in my mid 30s I concluded that normal jobs are for normal people, so I reached out to some former coworkers and got back into offshore seismic survey. I have since landed a supporting role where most of it is done from home. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Magister@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago I still enjoy being a software developer, I also WFH since COVID which is incredible permalink fedilink source parent
[–] NottaLottaOcelot@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago It’s mostly acceptance that you are already grown up, and a career change involves financially weighing the benefits of the new career vs the lost income to train for it. Add to it the fact that the working runway gets shorter and shorter which reduces the financial payoff, and you’re not changing careers after your 40s unless it’s for love/enjoyment. I think we were sold a lot of Hollywood bullshit about living for your job and working all evening or dream jobs that involved taking our laptops to Starbucks to plan parties for the rich and famous. But at the end of the day, a job is a job - nobody would pay you to do it if it was that fun. And so my choice is to make as much as I can to allow me to enjoy my leisure time, which means staying in my current career where I have already climbed the ladder. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] echo@lemmy.today 4 points 1 month ago There is some truth to this... I've moved on from the ideas that I might be highly influential or consequential. Now I just focus on trying to be a good person, do good deeds that keep me happy, tell nazis to DIAF, etc. No fame to be had for me. Other than a few immediate family members, I'll be forgotten to time when I die. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) Luck, basically. I landed a career that I actually enjoy, it pays decently, and I'm given a lot of freedom and flexibility. I tried having a "normal job", but in my mid 30s I concluded that normal jobs are for normal people, so I reached out to some former coworkers and got back into offshore seismic survey. I have since landed a supporting role where most of it is done from home. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Magister@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago I still enjoy being a software developer, I also WFH since COVID which is incredible permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Magister@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago I still enjoy being a software developer, I also WFH since COVID which is incredible permalink fedilink source parent