Yeah, people act like that's such a cringe thing to say. But it's a simple observation. It would be wrong to generalize it. It certainly doesn't describe everybody. But it definitely seems to be mainstream among the normies, at least.

I don't see why people blame the ones who point that out. It's kinda like shooting the messenger, honestly. Sure, the behavior is cringe. So why is it considered more cringe to critique it? It's like we're supposed to just pretend there isn't a pattern, pretend we don't see it, and scorn anyone who does?

There are a lot of counterproductive social taboos these days. They're different from the taboos of a half century ago, but they're still pretty nonsensical. Some things we just aren't supposed to point out and critique, and whoever acknowledges them first gets the blame that should be on the patterns they're pointing out.

How are we supposed to have any constructive social discourse when people are so afraid to speak up? And admiration goes to the ones who shun and condemn and demean those who even mention the destructive patterns.

It's like a new kind of self-righteousness has emerged, this time separate from religion...

Welcome to my ex-gf. Also some people know how to say what you want to hear while avoiding the actions to make it real. This can be very destructive to someone's peace.