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[–] Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 month ago (2 children) Basically yes. Once things get too "close" or too "real" people with that attachment style tend to get really scared and bail. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 child) If you think of it like everyone has their ideal "closeness" range, it makes more sense. Some people like to be extremely close and become one combined person. Others like to keep partners at arm's length. Neither one is "wrong", they're just incompatible with each other. If you get two compatible avoidant people, they tend to keep things casual and aloof, but know each other very well over the years. They just don't usually live in the same house. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago Oh I'm not trying to say it's "bad" fundamentally in and of itself or anything like that. I was just trying to give a basic explanation of why a more avoidant person might bail in that situation. I'm not trying to imply that someone with a more avoidant attachment style can't have a real or meaningful relationship, those were just the words I felt would make the most sense to the person I was explaining it to for a very basic bare bones explanation. permalink fedilink source parent [–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) and then they go around complaining to everyone how nobody is 'deep' enough for them or something similar. i notice folks like that love to think they are like the most 'deep' person who ever lived... shit's so weird. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] OryxAndCake@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 month ago Eh plenty aren't, you just don't meet them because they don't bother trying to bond with people. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 child) If you think of it like everyone has their ideal "closeness" range, it makes more sense. Some people like to be extremely close and become one combined person. Others like to keep partners at arm's length. Neither one is "wrong", they're just incompatible with each other. If you get two compatible avoidant people, they tend to keep things casual and aloof, but know each other very well over the years. They just don't usually live in the same house. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago Oh I'm not trying to say it's "bad" fundamentally in and of itself or anything like that. I was just trying to give a basic explanation of why a more avoidant person might bail in that situation. I'm not trying to imply that someone with a more avoidant attachment style can't have a real or meaningful relationship, those were just the words I felt would make the most sense to the person I was explaining it to for a very basic bare bones explanation. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago Oh I'm not trying to say it's "bad" fundamentally in and of itself or anything like that. I was just trying to give a basic explanation of why a more avoidant person might bail in that situation. I'm not trying to imply that someone with a more avoidant attachment style can't have a real or meaningful relationship, those were just the words I felt would make the most sense to the person I was explaining it to for a very basic bare bones explanation. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) and then they go around complaining to everyone how nobody is 'deep' enough for them or something similar. i notice folks like that love to think they are like the most 'deep' person who ever lived... shit's so weird. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] OryxAndCake@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 month ago Eh plenty aren't, you just don't meet them because they don't bother trying to bond with people. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] OryxAndCake@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 month ago Eh plenty aren't, you just don't meet them because they don't bother trying to bond with people. permalink fedilink source parent
