Horrible in a lot of ways, but "I'll try and date women who are interested in me and we'll build healthier habits in one another" is a much better outcome than I expect here.

Also, if we're being honest. I needed a push to try and date "in my league" so I could realize that I am worthy of love and build my own self worth to the point that I was a better person both to myself and to partners back when I was a big virgin at risk for incel thinking