That is a completely irrational argument. Car drivers are not really more in control. They are stuck in traffic jams, beyond their control. I enjoy actually more flexibilty during commute than car drivers. They have to avoid rush hour or be stuck, while rush hour in my train is perfectly fine. Also in an urban environment car drivers are much less in control as you have to search ages for on street parking close to any poplar destination or pay up for a garage that may be also full during high demand. No such worries with transit. People are much more frequently stuck on clogged roads than on a train.

Driving is also much more likely to kill you.