In the US I hated how the waiters were always bothering me with fake smiles "everything ok sir? do you need something?" while I've got my mouth full of food and no interest in conversation. I'll call if I need something, thank you.

I like living in a society of peers, I don't need to feel "served".

You're showing your usian bias, of course its less likely that a server elsewhere in the world is going to interrupt your meal. That doesn't mean they won't be available when you need them. The rest of the world doesn't expect or what someone interrupting their experience every 5 minutes, but we know we can signal them when we need something.

It sounds like you want to improve the working day for your own people, but you need to recognise that what you are aiming for is already well below the standard.