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He made an app just to give her attention (thelemmy.club)
submitted 3 months ago by [M] to c/Couplememes@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 105 points 3 months ago (16 children)

It's always disappointing to see how quick people are to shit on others' attempts to build connections in their own ways.

Yeah, it's kind of silly to make a blinking light app when the phone implies they could just call or use one of a million text-based message options.

But he set aside his own time to build something he thought she would like. There are so many worse ways someone can spend their time on a computer (or in general), I don't see why this seems worthy of ridicule. Also, why phrase it as "she wants attention"? Is it really any worse than her calling and saying, "I miss you" or "I'm just bored and want to talk to you"?

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  • [+] -14 points 3 months ago (2 children)

    her calling and saying, "I miss you" or "I'm just bored and want to talk to you"?

    Congratulations, you "built an app". I mean I get what you're saying and sort of agree, somewhat depending on his skill level. Like if this was hard for him to build that is cooler than if he was just showing off or something. Because yeah, communication is a solved problem. I once built an app that made a webpage that was sort of a coder/decoder for our messages so my then-girlfriend and I had a "secret language". To me the appeal of that is that it was novel/silly/weird and it was unique to us. Which I guess is sorta like this app.. but I dunno, this one also seems a little prone to abuse and one dimensional.

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  • [–] 6 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Eh, I agree and disagree. I don't use my phone extensively, and rarely have it on me if I'm at home, because I don't want to be reachable by anyone with my phone number/email address at all hours of every day. I like having the excuse of "Oops, I didn't have my phone on me.", " Sorry, my phone died", etc etc. However, I still want my wife to be able to get ahold of me when she needs to, so what she'll do is blink the lights through home assistant to get my attention. I didn't "make an app" or anything like that, but giving your loved one a special way to contact you that only they have is something nice and thoughtful

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  • [+] -15 points 3 months ago (11 children)

    I'm disappointed that it's not ok to say you don't like things

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  • [–] 9 points 3 months ago (3 children)

    Where did they say you're not allowed to do something?

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