I'm telling you I like to compete and by every metric I'm probably both healthier and more capable than you as a result. I'm glad you're working on it, but the difference between us is not "patriarchy" no matter how you shoehorn it, it is more likely not being in good shape and trying to catch up. I like attention as a motivator sure, but success and improvement are their own rewards. People can just be just more motivated than you. Bodybuilding and powerlifting are both things people enjoy for their own sake.

Society isn't the thing keeping you down, it's the law of averages. Most people suck. At everything. All the time. Welcome.