Racists and sexists hide behind their 'preferences' to legitimize their hate.
Or.... People just have preferences and that's okay?
Just flip the genders. If you heard men saying these things about women, would you think that is legitimate or that it's gross and hateful?
I mean, I did in my examples. If I said all women without a phat ass are disgusting, I think that would just make me an asshole. Not sure if that would really mean I hate women in general.
If I said women were ruining the world, it would prob be sexist because without any truth to the statement the only thing I could draw from it is that they were ruining things by simply being women. The opposite can't really be conflated as most global leaders and politically influential people are men.
If some guys said he wished he wasn't attracted to women, I would assume that they wish they had more options, or that they were emotionally attracted to men.
I mean context is important in each scenario.