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Dating has gotten so expensive that nearly half of U.S. singles say it’s no longer worth it, as the average night out approaches $200 (fortune.com)
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[–] 3 points 3 months ago (1 child)

I can see the guard has those gates firmly shut and chained. Hoping you can get out some day.

And fyi, I went on a 3 hour walk in a park with my now partner on our first date. Getting to know someone is the most important part of a date and you can do that for free, if you would only believe that you could. Maybe the people you are trying to date don't want to do things like "go for a walk" or "get to know the other person".

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  • [–] -3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 child)

    cool, was she a 40 year old woman in 2026 at that time?

    No? Gee it's almost as if you are projecting your past experiences into the present/future.

    just like when grandpa used to talk about marrying grandma and popping out 3 kids the time he was 24. that is nice and all, but it's not 1956 anymore. it's 2026. nobody in their sane mind in 2026 thinks teenagers should be marrying at 17/19 and popping out 3 kids. the world has changed.

    just like 20 years ago nobody had computers in their pockets and social media didn't exist.

    lecture me all you want grandpa about how it 'should be', it won't change the fact it's 2026 and this is how the world works today. i suppose you think a new house should only cost 5,000 dollars too? i got a newflash for you, homes now cost well over 500K and new ones are closer to a million dollars. clearly that's my fault, the prison of my mind is what is making housing prices so high... if only i had a 'positive attitude' homes would be magically be 5000 dollars again! or my income would be 500K a year! clearly it's a personal failing of mine, not at all the economy or market conditions over which no single person has any control...

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  • [–] 5 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Sounds like you've got a lot going on, hope you can find a way through it

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  • [–] -5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 child)

    There is nothing to 'get through'. I have nothing 'going on'. my life is great. I'm doing better than like 90% of people. I have a high paying job I love, pets, a home, and a great fulfilling life. But I can't use any of that to change other people or the world around me. I'm not God.

    Your presumption that the material and social conditions of reality around me are a personal failing of mine, is what is wrong. I didn't vote for Trump to tank the economy, but yet, I still must deal with that because other people around me decided he would be a good president. And like everyone else, now I have to face the reality of getting paid less, taxed more, and my cost of living going far more quickly than it would have had he not been president... all so he can make more billions for himself and cut tax rates on the 1%. Under Biden I was getting 5-10% yearly raises... because he was investing in this country.

    marriage and birthrates are plummeting across the developed world, it's far worse in parts of Europe and Japan/Korea. Because the material and social conditions there are even worse than they are in the USA. Look a Japan if you want to see the future of the USA, where nobody actually dates anymore and people increasingly hire hire professional fake partners for social events to keep up appearances that they are dating.

    but my personal attitude is what is causing people in Japan to not pursue marriage and children! clearly!

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  • [–] 4 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah just seems like no matter what I say you're just gonna type paragraphs of doomer shit. Clearly you're in a bad place mentally (since you assumed I was only talking about your physical, material conditions and not your mental state all but confirms it) and you are dead set in your view and nothing will ever change that. Good luck tho!

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  • [–] -4 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    No, you're just delusional about things if think 'doomerism' is stating facts of the world.

    Sorry that it makes you uncomfortable to hear about other people's life experiences that don't match your own. Sounds like you want to live in a bubble. I'm glad you want to do that, some of us don't want to live in a bubble.

    I own a home, that doesn't mean home prices aren't astronomical and fucking over lots of people. It just means I got lucky. It has nothing to do with my mindset or my emtional states.

    the world exists apart from my perceptions and feelings about it. if I died tomorrow, nothing of what is said in this article would change.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago (1 child)

    You've conflated what's been true for you with what must be true for everybody. Plenty of people go on cheap dates, you just seem mad it can't be you.

    "Nobody goes on cheap walking dates, at least not proper adults" you have it in your head you cannot go on a cheap date. This is a YOU issue. Jesus man just go back and re-read some of your posts.

    "Women don't want to go on waking dates" plenty of women would be down for that, maybe none that YOU are trying to date. Either that or you've been drowning in man-o-sphere bull shit telling you women only want a tall, tan, rich man or something.

    I'm not uncomfortable with anything you've said, could be projection there my guy.

    Again you talk about owning a home but that's barely tangentially related to going on cheap dates. Again, it's not your physical living conditions that is worrying, it's your current mental state. Which would also negatively affect your ability to get dates.

    Yeah that last part is just true. You and me both actually.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago

    Lol I don't agree with your experiences of women only going on dates if you spend a lot of money on them?

    I'm not the one posting paragraphs about how it's impossible to go on a cheap date. Since you apparently also know what all women want now?

    You keep bringing up random shit too. I'm sorry about your mom but that's not at all related to you thinking no "proper woman" would ever go on a cheap date with anyone. It's all in your head man, I'm not trying to hurt you I'm trying to help set you free. And again, that guard has you locked in TIGHT. Just go back and read through your old comments when you're feeling better, maybe you'll catch something you didn't see the first time.

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