Find a woman mature enough to communicate her needs

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a problem my wife and i had at the beginning of our relationship (solved very quickly, since we talked about it) is that i expected her to be able to intuitively read my body language. because the sign language i use is, for people who don't sign, basically all body language and facial expressions (for people who do sign, there are no actual signs it's all classifiers) and if you aren't constantly reading body language, you won't understand someone. it took an in-depth conversation about linguistics (a really fun one where we compared the four different sign languages the two of us use), but we managed to figure everything out.

yes, but women overwhelmingly expect this as a 'minimum standard' and woman dating/relationship advice is full of maxims that basically say your man is shitty if he can't read your mind or he isn't subordinate to your every random whim.

and lots of women believe this nonsense as gospel and verse and trying to tell them maybe they are self-sabotaging... doesn't go over well.

part of the reason this advice is so appealing is because it removes any agency/responsibility/risk of rejection from the woman and puts it all on the man. it reinforces classic gender norms that women are to be silent passive mysterious creatures and all action/agency is entirely the realm of the man.