Agreed. It’s definitely appealing to not have to put in any work, but sabotaging every relationship and having to start over again and again because you expect mindreaders sounds absolutely exhausting.

Like I said, it’s about maturity and the wisdom to realize all that bad advice is bullshit. As a partner you can try to be the one to call her out on it and build good communication skills from the ground up, or you can recognize the pattern and move on to someone who is willing to explicitly ask for their needs to be met.