I have similar feelings with people who put more importance on tone policing while fucking fascists are building concentration camps.

But here we are and that's what you're doing

So I usually put one last hail mary comment, because you understanding this is more important than how nice you think someone is:

If you think the message would be better received another way, fucking try that

Don't try and insist that every spreads the message the same way, because that's a recipe for it not reaching large parts of the population.

But there's going to be a lot of less than a week old accounts with single digit comments trying to waste people's time and stop doing what's effective.

And how do I know which you are?