I could just imagine someone's wife finding out:

"Are you telling me that all this time, you've been running a porn site on the Internet? And you don't even make money at it?"

That would be my last day as mod.

They had two admins, only the first of which had the keys to the castle.

Well if that is true, then that's completely fair. If they looked for someone to take it and nobody did, then there should be no surprise that it is gone now. You can be sad about it but not too sad, you should've just taken up the charge yourself then.

seems like this is what happened to Lemmy. ee too, nobody would take over some of the instance administrations.

I mean there's a high chance it also got ransomwared.