Who sets those expectations? I hope it's not your boss, personally telling you to wear makeup. I hope it's not a husband or SO telling you you need to wear makeup to be presentable.

I'd say it's very obvious that the flippant comments are informed by culture, and not yours or their personally set expectations. (I mean, unless you have an asshole boss that does try to set expectations, but I'm not hearing that in what was said so far)

Thats only because there's a big difference between no make up and make up. Makeup also specifically hides signs of being tired. Its a matter of expectation, but one that you set yourself.

I agree the plastic surgery stuff is just crazy. Though the unrealistic beauty standards are definitely a cultural thing. It's only ever going to be a cultural thing under capitalism, whre what ever expectation, realistic or not, that is most 'pretty' will be used in advertisements. It basically guarantees saturation of unrealistic expectations.