The rules are socially agreed upon
Nope! Universal laws.
They are not a mathematical truth.
Yes they are! 😂
There is nothing about the order of multiple different operators in the definition of the operators themselves
That's exactly where it is. 2x3 is defined as 2+2+2, therefore if you don't do Multiplication before Addition you get wrong answers

you can order those however you like.
No you can't! 😂 2+3x4=5x4=20, Oops! WRONG ANSWER 😂
All that matters is just what calculation it is that you’re after
And if you want the right answer then you have to obey the order of operations rules